Tips for a Bad Day

I have a good life. I have lovely friends, a nice boyfriend, an amazing family and the cutest little cat who keeps me happy almost all the time but sometimes I feel like the whole world is against me, and that’s ok.

Having a bad day is something that doesn’t happen as often as it used to. My bad days at ages 16-18 were bad days that would last 72 hours; bad days when I couldn't eat anything or even have a shower. During that period I couldn’t understand why I felt so sad, nothing significant had happened to me to cause me to feel that way which I honestly think made my sadness worse. My main thought process was; There are so many people suffering from different things, people who have it way worse than I do so why am I sitting in bed for 3 days crying? This kind of mindset was obviously not helpful but I think it’s really hard to accept that feeling sad is ok. Just because something has happened to someone else doesn’t mean my sadness is any less valid than theirs. I wish I had a time machine and could give my blog to 16-year old me! She would have really appreciated hearing that her feelings are valid, but I am not David Tennant so I cannot time travel. What I can do though, is write for myself now and you reading this. So I’m going to give you my top 10 tips on getting through a bad day.

(PLEASE NOTE; I am not a doctor / therapist so whilst I am happy to share, Don’t hold me responsible if you eat a whole birthday cake)

CADI’S 10 TOP TIPS WHEN YOU’RE HAVING A BAD DAY:

• If you feel like you absolutely can’t get out of bed because you feel so down; don’t. You shouldn’t feel bad for having a day off. Although at some point you will have to get up to pee, maybe use that time to grab a bite to eat or cuddle a pet.

• You don’t need to explain yourself to anyone. Obviously talking about it really does help, and I would recommend speaking. However you don’t need a specific reason to feel sad and you shouldn’t have to try and come up with one to suit others.

• Bake something! I know it sounds cliché but baking something takes up a lot of time and concentration and you’re basically left with something beautiful (Tasty’s Gooey Cookie Recipe is 10/10)

• Write stuff down. Honestly I have a filled diary and about 3 notebooks that are filled with random thoughts and my feelings. It really helps to write and this is one of the main reasons I started this blog.

• Make Playlists for every mood. This is my favourite thing to do. I have a playlist for everything ranging from ‘Songs to sing in the shower like you’re in a music video’ to ‘When it’s cold and I have to walk somewhere’ these were all made when I had a bad day and somehow when I feel sad my music taste improves. (If you want suggestions hit me up)

• Cry it out. Having a good old cry is so good for the soul. I’m not saying cry every day (please don’t) but having a good cry now and then is good, it lets out a lot of stress and is a good release of emotions.

• Watch your favourite TV Show. Not something new that might make you feel worse but something you’ve seen before that you know will bring you comfort. My go-to’s are: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, The Fresh Prince of Bel Air, The Office and Parks and Rec.

• Take a break off your phone, sometimes Social Media can be really harmful to mental health and having a break is really nice.

• Accept that you’re not going to feel better straight away. Sadly there is no magic spell that can cure how you feel. Whilst you can help yourself to feel better you can’t click your fingers and be happy and that is FINE. Take a day off and chill out.

• Have a nap. Naps help everything. Feeling sad? Have a nap. Feel tired? Have a nap. Lost your favourite top in your room and stressing because you can’t find it? Have a nap.

So that’s it. My top 10 tips, I could talk for hours about bad days and things to help with it but I think just 10 things are enough for now. Like I said before I am not a doctor/therapist so I can’t cure you or give you medical advice (I could but I really really don’t think I should ever be qualified to give medical advice as the world would definitely end) Hope I’ve helped you in some way!

If you have any tips for bad days or any bad day stories you want to share please dm be on insta @letsbecandi_ or email me at letusbecandid@gmail.com

Peace,

Cadi x